On this day … 2 July 1836

Darwen Bank, a mansion in Walton-le-Dale, was advertised for sale by auction in the Preston Chronicle. The sale followed the death of its owner, Edward Pedder, a member of the Preston banking family.

Darwen Bank, Walton-le-Dale, Preston
Preston Digital Archive: ‘Darwen Bank’, Cottage Lane, Walton-le-Dale, Preston. Later the home of the Rodgett family, Preston mill owners. Since demolished.
https://www.flickr.com/photos/rpsmithbarney/5345324018/

The house had been the scene of a very strange marriage, to judge by an account left by a member of the household. In 1809, Pedder, then aged thirty-three and a widower, had taken as his second wife his seventeen-year-old dairymaid, Mary Robinson, much to the dismay of his family.

In fact, before his new wife met his family and his Preston friends, she needed to become โ€˜a little better fitted for the society he wishes hereafter to introduce her to โ€ฆ fit to appear in the presence of his relationsโ€™.

To achieve this, he rented a house, Doveโ€™s Nest, overlooking Windermere at Ambleside, and kept her there, along with the daughter of his first marriage, for a number of years. He engaged a female companion for his wife, to teach her the social graces she would need to be accepted in Preston society.

The companion, Nelly Weeton, the daughter of a shipโ€™s captain in the African slave trade and the granddaughter of a Preston butcher, left letters and a journal that provide a detailed description of life in the Pedder household. It makes grim reading.

She describes Pedderโ€™s drunken rages, and found him barely educated despite attending public school and university:

โ€˜Mr. P., like many of the wealthy, possesses a library of little real use. He himself reads little, so that the shelves make a display of knowledge he possesses not; many a volume, I dare say, has never been opened.โ€™ He believed his role in life โ€˜is one who has many dependents, whom he may use and abuse as he pleasesโ€™.

She contrasted the public face he presented of the caring husband, with the petty tyrant who, in the privacy of his home, beat his wife and locked her in and out of the house:

โ€˜โ€ฆ before his Preston friends, he appears so doatingly fond, so lavish of his money upon her! He will, there, force cloaths and ornaments upon her, which when he gets home he is continually reproaching her with.โ€™

Such mean spiritedness condemned his wife to a life of miserable solitude, โ€˜no ladies of any rank visiting Mrs. P., and she not choosing on Mr. P.’s account, to visit with those who do not rank as high as his friends in Prestonโ€™.

Nelly Weeton wrote:

โ€˜I have wondered and wondered again, why he should treat the wife he has endured so much from his friends for, so much more unkindly than the commonest servant in the houseโ€”but so it is. … She has no help for herself; she cannot escapeโ€”the laws of the realm prevent that. “A servant,” as he said one day, “must not be spoken harshly to, for they can quit you when they please.”โ€”What a sorry motive what a contemptible reason for using a servant well. A wife, I suppose, may be treated in any way, according to the whim of the moment, becauseโ€” she is tied by the law, and cannot quit you when she pleases.โ€™

The couple, who had three children, celebrated their silver wedding in 1834, a year before Edwardโ€™s death. The widowed Mrs Pedder moved to the Lake District, to a house in Ambleside, where she lived until her death in 1872 at the age of eighty.


Sources
Middlemost and the Milltowns, by Brian Lewis, Stanford University 2001
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ellen_Weeton
https://www.ancestry.co.uk/family-tree/person/tree/6641214/person/382097712370/facts


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  1. Always though the distant relatives were Scottish via Southern Italy mafia or before that Greek.

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